Parents should not impose their own expectations onto their children
74. 父母不要把自己的期望 強壓在孩子的身上
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如何致富？且聽聽看富爸爸富媽媽是怎麼說的。
Parents should make financial preparations to provide the best environment in welcoming your child into this world. It will make things easier on yourself and be fair to your child.
「父母應該先做好財富上的準備，以最好的環境來迎接你子女的來到世間，這樣對你自己也不會太辛苦，也對孩子公平些。」
A child’s pain index is directly related to the parental pressure he feels.
「孩子痛苦指數的高低 ，與父母給予子女的壓力有關。」
A child is not a toy to expel your loneliness, nor is he an outlet for your anger. He is definitely not a servant or caretaker for you to boss around in your old age.
「孩子不是大人，用來當做排除寂寞的活玩具。」 也不是「你心情不好時，拿來出氣的出氣桶。」更不是「你年老多病時 ，任憑你差使的佣人或看護。」
It’s a sin and an act of selfishness to have a child without ever thinking for this child.
「完全沒有替孩子著想，父母就把孩子生出來是一種自私與罪過。」
If you don’t have enough wealth to satisfy your children’s vanity, they could be growing up under pain and discrimination. Have you considered how this can impact your children’s self-esteem?
「 如果你的財產不能滿足孩子的面子，你的孩子可能會是在痛苦與歧視之下成長的，關於孩子自尊的這一點，你可曾為你的孩子想到過嗎？」
Children have a strong sense of vanity. Although they should not resent their own parents for being poor, but it’s also wrong for the parents to expect complete obedience from their children.
「孩子虛榮心強、嫌親父母貧窮固然是不應該，但是父母寄望自己的孩子會百依百順，孝順聽話，也是不應該的。」
Parents should make financial preparations to provide the best environment in welcoming your child into this world. It will make things easier on yourself and be fair to your child.
「父母應該先做好財富上的準備，以最好的環境來迎接你子女的來到世間，這樣對你自己也不會太辛苦，也對孩子公平些。」
It’s a long and tough road for children to go to school, get a job, make money, and establish a family. Parents should give them more understanding and less pressure, otherwise, you run the risk of building your happiness on top of your children’s pain.
「孩子的唸書、做事、賺錢、成家立業的過程都很辛苦， 所以做父母的要多體諒孩子 ，不要給他們太大壓力，否則難免有把快樂建築在孩子的痛苦之上的嫌疑。」
We are happy to see young hearts falling in love and getting married. But having children is an issue they should think through. Never impose our own needs, such as our expectations, desires, ideals, goals, happiness, pride, health, senior care, or even appeal to injustice or revenge, onto our children.
「年輕人相愛結婚，我為他們高興 。但是要不要生孩子是年輕人 要慎重考慮的事 。絕不可以把自己的期待 、慾望 、理想、 抱復 、快樂 、榮耀 、健康、養老 、看護 或像 替父申冤 、復仇等等， 強壓在孩子身上。」
It’s the law of nature for parents to be good to their children. Yet you can’t force your children to be good to you; you can only hope. If you force them to be good to you, you will definitely be disappointed.
10*「父母對子女好是天經地義的事。然而子女對父母好，你只能盼望而不能強求，如果你強求子女對你好，你就絕對會失望的。」
Babies are innocent. Never bring an unhealthy child into this world. Those with defective genes are not suited for marriage and child-bearing.
「嬰孩是無辜的，千萬不要把不健康的孩子生出來。基因不好的男女，不適宜結婚生孩子。」
Children are innocent. Never build you happiness, ideals, and hopes on your children’s pain. Not only can social competition inflict pressure on children, so can their parents.
「孩子是無辜的，千萬別把自己的快樂、理想、希望等 ， 建築在孩子的痛苦之上。」孩子的壓力除了來自社會競爭之外，也來自於父母。」
Young parents must learn, early on, to invest and manage money, to prepare for retirement, to save up for their living expenses in old age, so they don’t impose the burden and pain of their survival onto their children.
13*「年輕的父母要及早學會投資理財，要提早做好退休準備 , 存夠足量的生活費用以安養餘年，免得年老時把生活重擔與痛苦壓在子女的身上。」
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