64.How Do the Modern Rich Dads Educate Their Next Generation?
64. 現代的富爸爸是如何教育下一代的
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* How to raise the next generation to be valuable and responsible citizens is the duty of all parents.
「教導下一代子女成才，是所有做父母應盡的責任。」
* Although the youths of today are particularly smart, yet they are too dependent on their parents. That’s why they usually lack of self-confidence and financial independence.
「現代青少年雖然非常聰明，但卻因為太依賴父母，所以導致自信心缺乏，不能財務獨立。」
* The kids nowadays are very lucky to be born in the time of self -determination. They can do what they wish and choose what they like. Unfortunately, we haven’t passed on to them the wisdom and knowledge of what to do and what to choose.
「現代的小孩子，有幸出生在自己做主的時代，但是我們卻沒有傳授他們如何去做決擇的智慧。」
* When children are growing up, they need encouraged and inspiration, also need to give strict disciplines. children need to build up their self-confidence and also their sense of responsibility.
「孩子的成長需要給予鼓勵與啟發， 但也需要給予嚴加管教。孩子需要自信心，同時也需要責任心。」
* You should pay special attention to “Education of opportunity”. Education for children is not performed at school only, but in every ordinary event of daily life.
「要抓住每一個「機會教育」機會，孩子的教育不完全只是在學校中， 而是在每一天的生活之中。」
*Don’t show negative examples to children. Never ever imbue them with negative and pessimistic thinking.
「不要做負面的示範，更不要向孩子灌輸負面( 悲觀)的思想。」
* Don’t educate children in the way of preaching. You yourself should be their role model. The best way to educate children for the parents is to set good examples with their own conducts.
「不要用說教來對待孩子，要用身教來影響孩子 。家長以身作則是最好的教育。」
* Don’t do everything for you children. You have to help them build up their self-independence, correct mistakes and develop their spirit of responsibility.
「不要事事都替孩子做 ，要培養孩子具有獨立自主的精神，有錯則改，具有勇於負責任的態度。」
* Excessive protection of children, make them lost their independence and autonomy. If the parents do so, the child will lose their capability of making a living and the ability to make judgment independently.
「過多的保護孩子 ，會使孩子失去獨立自主的能力。 如果父母這樣做，反而會使孩子失去了謀生能力 和獨自判斷的能力。 」
* A kid who is too dependent on his parents usually doesn’t know how to draw up a plan for his life.
「太依賴父母的孩子，往往不知道如何去規劃他自己的人生。」
* A kid should possess self-independence, responsibility, leadership, decisiveness and execution.
「孩子需要有獨立性、責任性、領導力，判斷力、執行力。」
* If children need to succeed and survive in such turbulent competitive world, so they must learn how to judgment independently, choice their right life.
「孩子要在如此瀲烈競爭中成功生存下去，所以他必須要學會獨立判斷，自主選擇生活。」
* Children should learn how to complete their own business and solve their own problems. They have to develop the habit of independence, self-motivated, self-driven habits.
「孩子要學會自己的事自己去完成、有問題發生自己去解決。」養成獨立自主，自動自發，自我驅動的習慣。」
* Give back the right of choice to your children. Let them become master of their own lives, not totally relying on their parent.
「要把選擇權還給孩子，讓孩子成為自己生命的主人，不在事事依賴父母。」
* As parents you should stimulate your children’s curiosity. You need not teach them everything. Try to arouse their interest in doing or researching different projects. You may give them some instructions, but not critical pressure, so eliminate their enthusiasm.
「要培養孩子的好奇心，不要什麼都教他們。 要培養孩子研究事務的興趣 ，父母可在旁邊多指導，但不宜批評打壓，以至於消滅他們的熱情。」
* Whenever your children meet with failure, let them bear the responsibility for the consequence. Children, who are responsible and dare to admit mistakes, will have outstanding achievements in future.
「當孩子失敗時，讓他自己去承擔責任。 勇於認錯負責的孩子，長大後才能成大器。」
* Make less criticism and give more advises to your children. Do not always find faults with them. Between you and your children you have to communicate and exchange views with each other more frequently.
「多指導，少批評。不要事事指責孩子，與孩子之間多做溝通和交流。」
* You should trust your children because “trust” can stir up their sense of responsibility better than punishment.
「要信任孩子 ，信任比懲罰更能夠激起孩子的責任心。」
* Let your children have their own universe to bring full play to their talent and imaginations. Give encouragement to them instead of denial. A child who is accepted and supported by his parents will have unlimited potential and his achievement will be unlimited too.
「讓孩子自己有一片發揮的天地。把對孩子的「否定 」變成「鼓勵」
一個受父母肯定的孩子，他的衝力會無限大 ，他的成就，也就會無限大。」
*Don’t restrict children’s freedom with too many disciplines. You ought to let them do what they are interested in.
「不要定出太多的規矩，來限制孩子的自由，要讓孩子去做他們自己喜歡做的事。」
* Give back the right of self-determination to your children. It not only can develop their ability of independence, but also be helpful to what they are working on.
「把自主權還給孩子。這樣不但能培養孩子獨立能力，而且有利於孩子把事情做好。」
* Don’t make decisions for your children, such as his interest, his career, his future and his spouse.
「不要替孩子去決定他的興趣 ，他的職業 ，他的前途，他的配偶。」
* Punish failure would hurt a child’s motivation to make progress. You ought to encourage them to learn from failures and become stronger and more mature.
「懲罰失敗會挫傷孩子求進步的動力，要鼓勵孩子在失敗中學習成長與堅強。」
* Don’t punish children for their setbacks. But you may punish them for their bad behaviors, such as being lazy, relying on others, evading responsibility and so on.
「不要懲罰失敗。可以懲罰懶惰、依賴、逃避、不負責任等壞行為，但是不要懲罰失敗。」
* Do not do preaching to your children. If they really believe in the preaching, they may lose their ability of self - judgment.
「不要說教，如果孩子相信了你的說教，他可能會失去自主的判斷力。」
* Encourage your children to do more house chores. Don’t do everything for them. Let them go and doing all the daily routines.
「鼓勵孩子勤勞做家事，不要在生活上凡事包辦，放手讓孩子自己去做。」
* Don’t interfere in children’s business too much. Don’t deprive them of their right of choice.
「不要過多地插手孩子的事務，不要剝奪孩子自己的選擇權。」
* One who is full of self-confidence will always be lucky and smooth in his career. But one who lost self-confidence will never be successful.
「 一個充滿自信的人，事業總是一帆風順的。一個失去自信心的人，永遠不會獲得成功。」
* Self-confidence has to be built up gradually. First, you must believe that your children are smart and capable. A support, a positive, an encouragement, a compliment, can stimulate a child’s self-confidence.
「自信心是需要逐步培養的，首先你要相信孩子是有能力的。一個支持 、一個肯定、一個鼓勵、一個誇獎，都可激發孩子的自信心。」
* Do not raise your children to be your successors, because they might not be interested in your specialty and career.
「不要把孩子培養成你的接班人，因為你的專長與事業，你的孩子不一定會有興趣。」
* It is the duty of parents to help their children to discover their talent and interest.
「去幫助孩子發覺他的專長與興趣，是父母的責任。 」
* It is the obligation of parents to help their children to display their potentiality.
「去幫助孩子發揮他的潛能，是父母的義務。」
* Don’t suppress your child’s feelings because being joyful, happy, angry, sad, and anxious are all normal reactions of human. You should give them the chance to let off their emotion.
「不要壓抑孩子的情緒，因為喜 、樂、怒、 哀、 愁是人的正常反應。要讓孩子有發洩感情的機會。」
* Try to be your children’s good friend, so that they are willing to talk to their parents. Let the children tell their parents whatever they have in their mind.
「做孩子的好朋友 ，培養孩子願意跟父母說話的習慣 「讓孩子有心裡話，願意和父母說。」
* I will try my best to spend more time with my children and be their intimate friend, to whom they will tell what they have in their hearts. I am not going to chide them in the way as a parent or as an elderly.
「我儘量花時間去陪伴我自己的小孩，而且盡力做到一個可以和他們說心裡話的朋友，而不再用「家長作風」「長輩口氣」來教訓孩子。」
* Spend more time to keep your children company. No matter how busy you are, you have to play with them and have hearty talks with them as equals.
「多陪陪孩子， 無論多麼忙，都要和孩子一起玩 ，平等的談心。」
* Don’t lose your temper when your children have done something that is against your expectations. You should listen to their explanations first.
「當孩子做了和自己期望不相符合的事情的時候，不要馬上發火，先聽聽孩子的解釋再說。」
* You have to educate your children to tell the truth and encourage them to be a man of integrity who dare to do something and dare to bear responsibility.
「培養孩子說誠實話 ，要求孩子敢做敢當，像個有骨氣的人。」
* If you want to be a friend of you children, you have to learn their language instead of asking them to learn you language / thinking.
「如果你要做孩子的朋友，那你只有學習他們的語言(電腦語言)，而不是要求他學習你的語言 / 思想。」
* I’d rather have a child who has internationalized mentality and concept than a child who is narrow-minded without world outlook.
「 我要有一個有國際化思維和國際觀的孩子，不要有一個狹隘封閉沒有世界觀的孩子。」
* I’d rather have a child who is reasonable with clear logic senses than a child who is obedient and docile.
「 我要有一個明理、講理的孩子，我不要一個百依百順，沒有主見的孩子。」
* I’d rather have a child who is responsible and strives to make progress than one who always finds excuses and shirks responsibility.
「 我要有一個負責上進的孩子，我不要一個推諉搪塞責任的孩子。」
* I’d rather have a child who is independent and self-determined than a child who has to depend on his daddy for living.
「 我要有一個獨立自主的孩子，我不要一個依靠老爸生活的孩子。」
* I’d rather have a son who has his own judgment and choice than one who has no definite views of his own.
「 我要有一個有判斷、有選擇能力的孩子，我不要一個沒有主見的孩子。」
* I’d rather have a son who has self-confidence and high aspiration than one who has no ambition at all.
「 我要有一個有自信、有報復的孩子，我不要一個沒有企圖心的孩子。」
* I’d rather have a son who is happy with his own ideal than one who is always reluctant in doing anything.
「 我要有一個有快樂、有理想的孩子，我不要一個做事勉強的孩子。」
* I’d rather have a son with whom we can have hearty talks than one who doesn’t talk to me and stays at a respectful distance from me.
「 我要有一個能談心的孩子，我不要一個敬畏我，不跟我說話的孩子。」
* You have to learn more up-to-date things, so as to establish common interest with your children.
「多接觸點流行的東西，以創造父子之間共同的興趣。」
* You have to learn your children’s computer language instead of asking them to learn your old language.
「只有你去學習孩子的電腦語言，而不能要求孩子去學習你的過時語言。」
* Only you go to meet the child’s life, can not ask children to adapt to the life of yours.
「只有你去適應孩子的生活方式，而不能要求孩子去適應你的生活方式。」
* To understand the child’s grow up background, try to understand children’s ideas, so you can communicate with them and live in peace.
「認識孩子成長的背景，設法去了解孩子們的想法，這樣你就能與孩子溝通，和平相處。」
* Spend more time to keep your children company. No matter how busy you are, you have to play with them and have heart to heart talks with them
「多陪陪孩子，無論多麼忙，都要和孩子一起玩，相互的交心。」
* You have to learn new knowledge diligently and accept new ideas and new concepts. By doing so, your generation gap might be avoided.
「勤學新知識，接受新思想、新觀念，這樣可以避免代溝的產生。」
* Good marital relationship is a hotbed for children to normal development. A broken family, children hurt worst.
「有良好的夫妻關係，是孩子正常成長的溫床。破碎的家庭，孩子所受的傷害最大。」
* Family lost love, the life certainly chaotic. Parents do not set a good example, difficult to teach children to be good.
「沒有愛的家庭，生活一定混亂不堪。父母沒有以身作則，孩子難以教好。」
* To educate the next generation, parents should set a good example, first educate themselves.
「要想教育好下一代，父母要以身作則，先把自己要求好、教育好。」
* In molding the character of children, parents should set good examples with their words and conducts because example is better than precept. Meanwhile, don’t educate them in the way of preaching.
「在孩子人格塑造方面，家長一定要以身作則，身教勝於言教，不要用說教來對待孩子。」
* Human beings have already marched onto the stage of the world. So, we have to instruct our children in the way of internationalized thinking and concept of value. It is wrong to stick to those deadly obsolete doctrines. Never ever imbue the children with passive thinking.
「人類已經走向世界的舞台，要以國際化的思維方式和價值觀來教導孩子，不要死守老古板的教條，不要向孩子灌輸負面的思想。」
* Give back the right of choice to your children. Let them be their own masters.
「要把選擇權還給孩子，讓孩子成為自己的主人。」
* Do not set up too many disciplines to restrict your children’s freedom. Let them do what they are interested in.
「不要用太多規矩限制孩子的自由 . 要讓自己的孩子去做他自己喜歡做的事。」。
* Do not interfere your children’s business too much. You are depriving them of their right of choice.
「不要過多插手孩子的事務，不要剝奪孩子自己的選擇權。」
* Whether one is happy or not mostly depends on whether he is able or not to do what he is interested in. These two factors are closely related to each other.
「一個人快樂與否？ 和他是否能做自己有興趣的事，有著相當大的關連性的。」
* 15% of one’s success in his career is determined by his professional skills. The rest 85% depends on his interpersonal relationship and his worldly wisdom.
「一個人事業的成功15%取決於他的專業技能，另外的85%要依靠人際關係 和 處世技巧。」
* I will do my best to spend more time to keep my children company and try my utmost to be a father to whom they can trust with whatever they have in their hearts.
「我儘量花時間去陪伴我的小孩，而且盡力做一個可以和她們說心裡話的父親。」
* If you don’t learn new knowledge and do not keep in touch with new thinking and new concepts, you are poor and backward in the scope of knowledge and thinking. Then you will be unable to understand the idea of a child.
「如果你 不學新知識，不接觸新的思想觀念，知識匱乏，思想陳舊，你就不能理解孩子的想法。」
* Always bring children to go hiking, walking, traveling, visiting museums, listening speak, learn computer and etc. This is the best chance to have heart to heart talks with them, communicate with them as well. These activities not only can improve their health, also increase their new knowledge.
「要經常帶孩子一齊去爬山、打球、散步、旅遊、看展覽會、聽演講、學電腦、、等，這是與孩子談心、溝通的最好機會，而且有益健康，有益增進新知識。 」
The election of rich dad is your good luck. How to choose for their children is to use your wisdom, how to education their children is your responsibility, how to get a good boy is depend on your good example.
「選對富爸爸是你的運氣好，如何選對子女是要運用你的智慧，如何把孩子教育好是你的職責，如何得到一個好孩子是在於你的以身作責。 」
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